Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation where abusers lie and question the victim’s reality, leading them to doubt their own perceptions and experience. This can create profound insecurity and low self-worth within the victim. Gaslighting can occur in any relationship and there are different types of gaslighting that abusers may use, including coercion, trivializing, questioning reality, and blame-shifting. It is important to be able to recognize the signs of gaslighting and respond appropriately.
One way to tell if someone is gaslighting you is to ask yourself if the person is never accountable for their actions and always places blame on you. Gaslighters may also try to make you think that what you believe is not important or that you are wrong. Hurtful behavior may be minimized or ignored, and you may begin to feel like you are crazy and can’t determine what is real. If you constantly feel anxious around this person, they may be gaslighting you. Gaslighters often have personality disorders, such as narcissistic personality disorder, which can make it difficult to have a healthy relationship with them.
If you suspect someone is gaslighting you, it is important to confront the behavior and set boundaries. Collect evidence to prove your perspective, discuss how their behavior impacts you emotionally and physiologically, and present evidence of situations where you know you were not wrong. Set clear boundaries in the relationship and address any behaviors that make you feel uncomfortable. Lean on your support network of trusted friends to help you sort out the details of the situation and give you reassurance and validation. Seeking the help of a therapist can also be beneficial in healing from the effects of gaslighting and regaining a healthy sense of self.
Gaslighting can create wounds such as a distorted self-perspective, low self-esteem, self-doubt, isolation, anxiety, depression, and trauma. It is important to recognize and address gaslighting behaviors in order to protect your mental and emotional well-being. By understanding the signs of gaslighting and responding accordingly, you can take steps to confront the behavior and make changes in the relationship, or choose to end it if the behavior continues. Therapy can be a valuable resource for healing from the effects of gaslighting and moving forward in a healthy way.
