Crystal Shaniece Roman shares her experience of being raised by a Puerto Rican father and Jamaican mother in her work “Black Latina: The Play.” She recalls a moment at a parent-teacher conference where a teacher didn’t recognize her connection to her mother, which made her realize that people saw her mother differently from her. These kinds of comments are unfortunately common for multiracial families, who now make up 10.2% of the U.S. population. Psychologist Anjali Ferguson, who has Black and Indian children, has faced anti-Black racism disguised as compliments towards her children. These remarks can impact a child’s self-esteem and sense of identity, but parents can play a role in helping their children cope and develop pride in who they are.
Ferguson advises parents to address comments about their children’s race and identity head-on in a way that affirms their cultural background. She suggests engaging in conversations with children about their experiences and feelings, even if it may be uncomfortable for the parent. By openly discussing these incidents, parents can help their children navigate potential future comments and build resiliencies. Developing a positive racial identity within the home and exposing children to diverse groups can also help prepare them to handle ignorant remarks.
The HuffPost Parents Facebook community shared some of the comments they have received about their multiracial families, illustrating the insensitivity and ignorance faced by these families. From questions about a baby’s tan to assumptions about babysitting relationships, these anecdotes highlight the need for greater awareness and acceptance of diverse family structures. Building a strong sense of self and cultural pride within the family can help children buffer against the impact of hurtful comments and develop the confidence to navigate challenging situations.
Multiracial families continue to face microaggressions and stereotypes about their appearances and relationships. By equipping children with tools to understand and embrace their cultural heritage, parents can empower them to respond confidently to ignorant comments and maintain a healthy sense of self-worth. Open communication and support within the family can create a safe space for children to express their feelings and process their experiences, ultimately fostering resilience and pride in their multiracial identities. It is crucial for society to recognize and respect the diversity of family structures and refrain from making assumptions or judgments based on appearances.
