This week’s Relationship Rehab column focuses on how men lose their libidos and how to address this issue within a relationship. Isiah McKimmie, a Couples Therapist and Sexologist, explains that differences in libido are common in relationships and can often challenge couples. While libido can fluctuate throughout one’s life, drastic changes may signal underlying issues that need to be addressed.
McKimmie points out that it can be particularly difficult when a male partner experiences a loss of interest in sex, as it can impact his sense of masculinity and self-worth. This shift can also affect the partner, who may feel unattractive and unwanted. It’s important to understand that changes in libido do not necessarily reflect a lack of love or attraction in the relationship.
To manage a difference in libidos, it is crucial for partners to empathize with each other and understand what factors might be impacting their sexual desire. Common reasons for men losing their libido include stress, depression, health issues, medication side effects, performance anxiety, and hormonal imbalances. Partners can work together to address these issues and find ways to rekindle their sexual intimacy in a manner that feels good for both parties.
Building a strong foundation of intimacy outside of sex is essential for maintaining a healthy relationship and addressing differences in libidos. Research shows that feeling loved, trusting, safe, and playful with each other is essential for a satisfying sexual relationship over the long term. Couples should prioritize having important conversations, showing love and affection in various ways, and engaging in activities that promote emotional safety and connection.
It is also important for partners to communicate openly and collaboratively about their needs and desires regarding intimacy. This may involve scheduling time for intimacy when both partners are not tired, exploring activities that ignite desire, and seeking professional help from a trusted doctor or therapist if needed. By working together and supporting each other through these challenges, couples can overcome differences in libidos and maintain a fulfilling and loving relationship.
