Summarize this content to 2000 words in 6 paragraphs A bride-to-be’s excitement over her upcoming wedding has been derailed after her caterer’s explosive reaction to a list of suggested menu items.The bride and original poster (OP), Reddit user ironicallygeneral, shared her story on r/weddingshaming, sparking disbelief among the community.With just over two weeks until the wedding, the OP recounted how her caterer, whom she had picked having seen her glowing reviews, became increasingly hostile after the couple provided a detailed list of canapé suggestions.
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The OP wrote, “Cue an absolute harpy. It’s all voice notes and I wouldn’t feel comfortable putting screenshots on here anyway, but basically “never in my life has a couple told me how to do my job” and apparently we are taking advantage of her and trying to make her work at a loss.”All of this in a vicious Karen-esque tone of voice. She ended by telling me that she should perhaps just send me my deposit back. She also spent a good part of it slandering one of the cheesemongers in the area in a most unprofessional way.”Honestly this was so out of left field, I was absolutely stunned. I apologised for upsetting her (because genuinely I had not intended anything of the sort) but reminded her that we agreed on a list when we saw her, and tried to underline that the list was suggestions.”I felt that had been clear but my message with the document was a long one so gave her the benefit of the doubt and decided to say she could have missed that.”Her next voice note told me to “make up my mind” and added that since we are now 50 adults and 4 kids, instead of 70 adults and 5 kids, she would have to raise the price per head anyway.”
The Reddit community was quick to side with the OP, with many questioning the caterer’s professionalism and approach.One wrote, “If she didn’t have a list of options for you, I don’t understand how she could possibly be offended by you sending her a list of items you’d be interested in? This is unhinged. I wish you the best of luck finding a different caterer!”Another advised, “I would inform the cheesemonger of her rhetoric so they can stop doing business with her. If she’s saying that to you, she’s saying it to other caterers and possibly hurting the business.”In an update, the OP revealed that she had asked the caterer to honor her offer of a refund and was preparing to leave a review once she got her money back. Friends and family had already begun to rally around the couple, discussing plans to take over the catering themselves.Dealing with VendorsAccording to Brides.com, one of the most frequent etiquette mistakes couples make is failing to establish clear expectations with vendors early in the process.While providing input on menus is common, it’s essential that both parties maintain open and respectful dialogue to avoid misunderstandings.Experts also advise that tone and timing matter when discussing changes with vendors. “It is always best to communicate your expectations clearly but respectfully,” notes Estes Therapy.”If something feels off, addressing it early on could be a good thing.” However, even with the best intentions, conflicts can arise when expectations aren’t aligned.
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