Reddit user “Pleasant-Tear3205” purchased a house nine years ago that had a history of a murder-suicide occurring on the property. He did not think much of it and agreed to purchase the house at a discounted price due to the high-profile crime. When he met his wife five years later, she fell in love with the house until she recently learned about its past from an elderly woman at a grocery store. Upon learning about the past incident, the wife panicked and left the house, insisting that they sell it.
This situation prompted debate on Reddit, with most users agreeing that Pleasant-Tear3205 was not wrong for not disclosing the house’s history to his wife. Some users shared similar experiences with owning houses with a past they were unaware of, stating that people die in houses all the time and it is not an issue. Others made light-hearted comments suggesting extreme measures to avoid living in a house where people have died. The general consensus was that the husband did nothing wrong by not informing his wife.
Communications expert Rosalinda Randall noted that there is no right answer in such a dilemma and that it comes down to personal angst, superstitions, or a preference for being informed. She suggested that the wife seek counseling to cope with her angst or learn more details about the incident to ease her mind. Randall also advised both parties to communicate openly and understand each other’s perspectives to eliminate any lingering bad vibes at the house. She emphasized that without communication, the relationship could be doomed.
Randall recommended that Pleasant-Tear3205 should have a mature conversation with his wife after she has had time to cool off and gather herself. She also suggested involving the wife’s parents in the conversations to gain a better understanding of the wife’s concerns. The expert emphasized the importance of listening to each other and working together to address any issues that may arise. She also noted that the wife’s reaction and sudden move out could be a sign of underlying relationship issues.
Despite the nuanced advice from the communications expert, Reddit users were more straightforward in their opinions. The majority of commenters agreed that Pleasant-Tear3205 was not wrong for not disclosing the house’s history to his wife. They pointed out that he had purchased the house well before meeting his wife, and the incident did not cross his mind to mention it. The top-upvoted comments on the AITAH subreddit favored the husband, with users sharing similar experiences and offering support for his actions. Ultimately, the response on Reddit was in favor of the husband’s decision.
