The author of the piece discusses her aversion to the idea of weddings, feeling that they are odd and not in line with her personal preferences or beliefs. She never dreamed of her wedding day and always found the idea of a traditional wedding ceremony with a poofy gown, veil, and public display of affection to be unappealing and costly. However, her views on weddings changed when she met someone who she connected with deeply. Despite both never being big on marriage, they found that it felt right to make a commitment to each other in this way, almost as a romantic rebellion against themselves.
As the wedding day approached, the author began to feel increasingly uncomfortable with the idea of a traditional ceremony. Questions about dresses, songs for the first dance, and the idea of being the center of attention made her feel suffocated and disconnected from the whole concept of a wedding. Despite agreeing to get married, she felt like she was envisioning someone else’s life when she thought about the big day, and it felt like a ludicrous decision. Eventually, she and her fiancé decided that they needed to make a change to make the day feel more authentic to them.
In a bold move, the author and her fiancé decided to elope instead of having a traditional wedding. They chose to have their ceremony on a beach in Formentera, both wearing white bikinis and cowboy hats. The idea of a small, intimate ceremony without guests or traditional wedding elements felt more true to who they were as a couple. They wanted to do what felt right for them in the moment, without the pressure of conforming to societal expectations of what a wedding should be.
The decision to elope allowed the author and her fiancé to embrace their love and commitment to each other in a way that felt authentic and true to who they were as individuals. By choosing to forego the traditional wedding ceremony with its expected customs and conventions, they were able to create a day that reflected their unique bond and personal values. The author’s initial aversion to weddings transformed into a celebration of love that felt genuine and meaningful to both her and her partner.
In the end, the author’s journey from reluctance towards weddings to embracing a more unconventional and intimate celebration of love highlights the importance of staying true to oneself and one’s values in moments of significance. By eschewing societal expectations and following their hearts, the author and her fiancé were able to create a wedding day that was a true reflection of their love and commitment to each other. It serves as a reminder that weddings do not have to conform to traditional norms and expectations, but can be shaped in a way that feels authentic and meaningful to the couple involved.
