The podcast host, Tori Spelling, recently filed for divorce from her husband, Dean McDermott, after 18 years of marriage and a 10-month separation. She revealed on her podcast that she broke the news to him while recording, and expressed feelings of loneliness and unworthiness. Spelling admitted to experiencing these negative emotions for a long time, recognizing that changing them is a difficult process. She also revealed that her decision to divorce was a formality, and she was frustrated that McDermott had already spoken publicly about their situation. Despite their history, Spelling stated that she wishes she had taken steps toward divorce much sooner.
Spelling reflected on the early days of her relationship with McDermott, describing their quick and passionate falling in love period. She highlighted how McDermott allowed her to be her true self, expressing her loud and unfiltered personality when they first met on the set of Mind Over Murder in 2005. She praised him for accepting all sides of her and letting her be authentic, without conforming to a specific image. The couple married in 2006 and went on to have five children together, but Spelling acknowledged that their relationship changed after becoming parents.
Following the birth of their children, Spelling and McDermott became consumed with parenthood, causing a shift in their dynamic. Spelling admitted that she focused solely on the children, leaving McDermott feeling neglected. While they initially tried to maintain date nights and prioritize their relationship, the demands of parenting took over. Spelling described feeling like she was raising their children on her own emotionally, while McDermott provided physical support. The couple also ventured into reality television as a means of financial support, showcasing their family dynamic for the public while dealing with underlying issues behind the scenes.
Spelling shared that she portrayed a facade of a perfect relationship on their reality shows, creating a persona for McDermott that did not necessarily reflect their reality. She admitted to projecting an image of a perfect marriage, despite facing internal struggles and challenges. Spelling stated that she played a role in shaping McDermott’s public image, turning him into the ideal partner she wished for in her youth. She mentioned that the editing process of their reality show often hid the conflicts and negative aspects of their relationship, leading to a disconnect between their public persona and private reality.
The actress expressed regret for not taking steps toward divorcing McDermott earlier, recognizing that their relationship had been deteriorating over the years. She acknowledged that there were signs of trouble that she chose to ignore for the sake of their family and public image. Spelling admitted that she and McDermott should have addressed their issues sooner, rather than allowing them to fester over time. Despite the challenges they faced, Spelling expressed gratitude for the positive aspects of their marriage, such as the initial connection and romance they shared early on. She concluded that filing for divorce was a necessary step towards finding happiness and fulfillment for herself and her children.
